A number of years ago, 2006, a married man, a father of young children, with a history of depression did the unthinkable. He attacked an Amish school with a gun, forced the men, the male students, a pregnant woman and adults who were parents of young children to leave. He then proceeded to murder 10 innocent young girls before taking his own life.
That man was not an incel, but his conduct was completely consistent with the ideology of having what is 100 virgins waiting for you in heaven after you have died a virgin martyr.
I applaud your courage for going down the rabbit whole (or would that be the coal chute) to get a look at these men.
I could say a lot but I will stop with these two things. First is thank you and second, to any men reading this, you need to find a way to work with your brothers.