I am childless biologically because of literally a birth defect - my fallopian tubes did not open. Could not have gotten pregnant without spending thousands of dollars. I am childless in fact because I was not willing to adopt a child. I also chose to be in a relationship with a person who was in many ways as needful as a child.

My sense is these are the men who are so much the source of the fury and rage you are describing. Most likely they were raised by women who did not want to be mothers and received no support - financial, social, emotional as women and as parents.