It was not my choice to be childless. I will spare you the details but propose an alternate perspective: in my family and culture (Black/African American) the familial role of “aunt” and “uncle” are vital and lively supports to the more obvious roles of mother and father. One can attempt to live a childfree life, however being involved in the lives of children who are of my heart (as opposed to my body) has been an enriching experience. I had to cling to this perspective for many years but it now feels quite natural and correct. Feminism is embracing of many things but most particularly the concept of families of choice.


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